Sunday, December 13, 2009

The Mary Shelley Generation

Unable to have a baby of her own, Amy Kehoe became her own general contractor to manufacture one. For Ms. Kehoe and her husband, Scott, the idea seemed like their best hope after years of infertility.

Working mostly over the Internet, Ms. Kehoe handpicked the egg donor, a pre-med student at the University of Michigan. From the Web site of California Cryobank, she chose the anonymous sperm donor, an athletic man with a 4.0 high school grade-point average.

On another Web site,, Ms. Kehoe found a gestational carrier who would deliver her baby.

Finally, she hired the fertility clinic, IVF Michigan, which put together her creation last December.

“We paid for the egg, the sperm, the in vitro fertilization,” Ms. Kehoe said as she showed off baby pictures at her home near Grand Rapids, Mich. “They wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for us.”

On July 28, the Kehoes announced the arrival of twins, Ethan and Bridget, at University Hospital in Ann Arbor. Overjoyed, they took the babies home on Aug. 3 and prepared for a welcoming by their large extended family.

A month later, a police officer supervised as the Kehoes relinquished the swaddled infants in the driveway.

Bridget and Ethan are now in the custody of the surrogate who gave birth to them, Laschell Baker of Ypsilanti, Mich. Ms. Baker had obtained a court order to retrieve them after learning that Ms. Kehoe was being treated for mental illness.
Stephanie Saul, New York Times, December 12, 2009

Perfect Parent asks:
How does a scenario such as this advance?

"Well Mom, we think our best hope for giving you grandchildren is purchasing sacred (albeit microscopic) body parts over the internet from other humans and shipping them fed-ex to a laboratory where technicians will create embryos. Scott bought the neatest woman to carry them, god bless her! I have to tell ya Ma, sperm from an athlete and eggs from a pre-med will set you back a few."

"Oh Honey,that's just super. Let's have the gestational carrier shower at The Club, it's so much easier than the beach house."

Sunday, December 6, 2009

When Your Best is not a Good Look

"For the last few years, ever since I passed out from exhaustion, broke my cheekbone and got five stitches over my eye, I've been working on bringing more balance to my life. To do this, I’ve had to learn to unplug and recharge. To trade multi-tasking for uni-tasking -- and, occasionally -- no-tasking. It’s left me healthier, happier, and more able to try to make a positive difference in the world." Arriana Huffington

Perfect Parent asks:

Ummmmmmmm, Ariana were there any red flags before this moment that might have helped you avoid these injuries? Though all working moms have stories of sleep deprived fender benders Ariana (once again) has bested us all. May I suggest getting to the point of passing out and breaking something only if what you are engaged in is super important. If say, you are on the very brink of curing an infectious disease or carrying a high level message of national security. Halloween costumes, wedding receptions, spelling tests, college applications, blogging!! or engaging in punditry just don't warrant the kind of dedication necessary to pass out cold and break something on your face!

By all means make a positive difference in the world moms but before laying crumpled in your twin-set, eyes rolling and head leaking, get some shut-eye.